5 Things Nobody Warned Me About Being Engaged
so here I am. 22 years old. a junior producer at a multinational ad agency with a major headache.
engaged (to a banker).
it’s hasn’t been easy, my friends.
1. Friday Nightouts are old, Future In-laws Gatherings is the ish!
like it or not, you’re the future wife a.k.a the future daughter-in-law slash sister-in-law. you gotta show you care and that you’re willing to do this’. you gotta come to numerous family gatherings and learn about the other family. cause soon, you’re gonna be a part of them. so, friday nightouts? nah, cross that off your priorities list.
2. You’re Still Their Babygirl
yeap. you’re excited about being a wife soon, yeay. you’re “old enough”. but hey, you’re still your parents’ daughter, no matter how old you are. you gotta spend some quality time with your famlay and show your parents that they matter and that they won’t lose you though you’re going to change your last name in 8 months. cause really, they’ll get more and more sensitive as they realize that they’re baby girl is “leaving”. so statements like “you are ignoring us. it’s like you’re not on our side anymore” would come out easily from them. just don’t take it seriously. you know you love your family right?
3. You Still Need Your Bestfriends (and to be one)
remember, you’re someone else’s bestfriend. you gotta spend time with them, listen to their stories, and ask for help whenever the pressure is getting too crazy! don’t get all caught up in your wedding planning stuff and end up losing your best friends. you need them as much as they need you. so have a beer, give them hugs, laugh together, watch DVD’s. oh and really, not everyone can be your bridesmaids. choose the ones who have been there through thick and thin. they gotta be time-tested.*buying material for their dresses could be costly :s *
4. Listening to Too Many People is Unnecessary!
people will have various opinions about your wedding. they’ll give you references that are based on their own personal preferences. remember that this is your wedding! it’s your once-in-a-lifetime party! y
ou gotta have something that when you look back years from now, would make you say “I’m glad I have that in my wedding”. whether it’s color tone, dress, bridesmaids, band, music, drinks, catering menu, et cetera et cetera. people will also have opinions on what to prepare mentally and spiritually. hey, check on your Maker. He knows best. others are just people. why bother listening to them?
5. Diamonds rings are pretty. Your body shuts down easily if you sleep after 1 a.m. Not using a wedding organizer is POSSIBLE as long as you DELEGATE. Being open with your partner is the best possible way to solve your inner conflict. and….
……….cold mango beer is sometimes needed. LOL
oh well
not easy I know. but just like a good song, you just gotta find the right rhythm to sing and dance on it. so learn.
(inspired by this post)
